Category: Dating and Relationships
Ok fokes. I have to ask this question to any one who would read this poste that is blind. Given that I am blind and can only see light. What is it like for you to have sex? What is the experiance like for you? you can through in any comments ylou may have or any experiance you may have.
Thanks.I feel this is my only way I will know. I know it is different for every one so this is why I have to ask.
Thanks again.
Sex is great...I love it! It doesn't matter if you can't see...I think that enhances it. Lots of touching...etc, etc.
its cookies and i feel like its a gift being blind and having sex because the tongues and hands play a more bigger part then just screwing and its done. well i guess everyone has an opinion and likes to screw but there is mine. i think its great.
I don't think that blindness inhibits sex at all. I too have light perception and have had marvelous intercourse!!! As to what it is like, I can only say that like any other person, you need to experience it to understand at all!!!
*sexy*
Who needs eyesight to have sex; the hands, lips, tongue, legs, etc still work. My sighted husband and I kissed, cuddled, jerked one-another off on our first date; I kept the lights off. Guess he didn't mind, eh? Hahaha,
Dave
Intense, sensual, interesting confusing because I can't see her expression..smile I enjoy every minute because it is just such a tactile,emotional experience and the sound of the whip landing on bare flesh is a colossal turn on...grin...
Hi Well thanks for the answer if there are any more coments keep them coming. I'll will do what I can to answer what I can.
Thanks again.
no problem I wish more people would ask these questions..
you could always ask these sorts of questions yourself. at least that way you've half a chance of reading them as well! hmm
the only people who can really tell you what is different are those who've lost their sight as an adult. I guess we miss the visual signals that sighted people get, but to me that just says that we should make sure we comunicate with our lover. I can't see that you can go far wrong if you keep the communication between you going as much as possible.
that's goblin screwed then! *grin*
lmao@dan
Very intresting. if any one knows any e-mail lists I can join that discusses this kind of topic that would help too.
There was actually a study done a few years ago regarding blind people and sexual activity. I can't remember the doctor's name, but you could look it up on the Internet, there were lots of articles written about it. And the doc's conclusion was that blind people are no different than sighted people when it comes to sex. We just might like things a bit different, that's all.
Well, dahhhhh. re: that doc's expensive study. LOL.
Hahaha, I agree with you, but you know scientists, they never believe anything unless they study it. lol
i love sex an di am definitely so in my eyes its great.
Yeah I see what you mean. I am just cirous is all.
cirous? don't understand?
Did you mean "curious"?
Yes I did lol. I will just leave at that.
Hi:
Thought I'd respond to this topic.
I believe that sex is all about communication and is an immersive sensory experience for all involved. Well, I think I certainly stated the obvious.
Many people enjoy being blindfolded. I believe the reason for that is so that they have the experience of sensory depravation and can therefore rely on other senses that they may not have fully paid attention to before. Of course, we all know that sex is about touch, but there are so many other facets. What better way of experiencing how much you truly can understand the power of touch and sound than to be blindfolded?
Personally, I think it would be incredible to look in to the eyes of my partner and see the look on his or her face, or catch visual cues, but I can't. I can, however, send visual cues and make sure to communicate with them.
So, to answer the question, for me, I don't know that it is all that different. It's about being aware of the other person's wants, needs, and desires, while being in touch with your own. It can be a tricky balancing act, that's for sure! But hey, half the fun is in the learning!
Sarila
I do not think that you have to see to have sex. It is all about comunications, it has nothing to do with sight. And I agree that it is better because you become more physical with the hands and everything.
Sounds intresting, but how if you are blind would you know if your so called organ is alinded just rite? I mean do you some times try to use your hand to guide it ware you want it?
Matthew
Either mine or my partner's hands guide it; it's all part of the playing.
Sex involves all the senses from touch to sound to smell, taste, and sight. However, I don't feel that I am missing much at all from not being able to see my partner during sex. There are popular sexual positions that wouldn't permit sighted lovers to see each other's faces too. Having said that, I was recently reminded of the fact that I cannot se my partner when I was reading some message boards on another site. A man stated that he loves to see his wife's expresions of pleasure while they had sex. This prompted me to wonder of the expressions of my own partner but I still don't feel that I am missing out on much if anything.
As far as how to align your organs, either partner can do that. I will say that as you become familar with your partner, things can seem to fit together quite effortlessly depending on the position. But keep in mind that people don't have eyes down there so I don't think that sighted people go much on sight as intercourse begins.
Yeah... The physical contact and the sound become the central thing and it can be very pleasurable and very intense. I found that sleeping with another blind person can be very enjoyable for both parties as we aren't distracted by the visual aspect. Just my opinion though.
Sex is sex, and sex is great. It really has nothing whatsoever to do with sight. As for the alignment thing, I would assume that sighted people can't easily see what they're doing down there, and thus it would make no difference if the lovers were sighted or blind.
heather how the fuck would you know? You're a virgin. so am I thus is why i have no answer here. I'll have to be taught.
It's not that different. (Um not that I've ever had sex where I could see, but...) My partner didn't clue me into anything that was different about his experience with me as opposed to other partners (he's sighted).
I did wish that I could pick up on visual cues, though. I wouldn't say that this lessened the experience in any way, but I don't know, it would've been nice to see him smile or what have you...
i must say, sometimes, things will slide right in without guidance of any kind. now that's great when you have your hands holding her head, jently pulling her hair, and it just happens...
Some times, sexual activity--or at least petting--might be the first time those of us who are blind may get a chance to get a good idea what the other person "looks" like.
While our sighted coleagues have judged another person as "acceptible" or "unacceptible" based on physical features, we are busy judging another person on voice quality, what they have to say--are they supercilious, nice, or an air-head?
Is a person over weight, or very thin? Very hairy, or smoothed skin? Big boned, or very petite?
These are things that don't necessarily show up in the voice, but yield themselves nicely to touch.
And, if the sexual fever is high enough, you find that these are all things that really don't matter so much.
Bob
I suppose that could be true, but any blind person who hasn't changed a baby, hugged kids and adults, helped a sick friend, helped get a younger sibbling dressed, spent time cuddling up with a friend while watching a movie or rough housed with a friend or family member, or at least most of those, by the time they are ready to have sex is really, really sad. If starting to have sex is the first time that you've really seen the human form in any detail, then you have much bigger problems. As far as your partner's hight, weight, distribution of hair, smoothness of skin, etc, you should all ready have a pretty good idea of what your partner looks like before having sex. I mean, you should have hugged this person, held their hand, kissed them, brushed their hair, cared for them when they weren't feeling well, play faught with them, massaged them or engaged in other such physical activities that would give you a pretty good idea of what all but their most intimate parts feel like and look like. Thus, I find the assertion that a blind person's first time truly seeing another person in detail or seeing their partner in any detail, during their first sexual encounter, to be preposterous.
agreed heather... and blake meow or something?
You make a good point. However, I did say: "Some times, sexual activity--or at least petting--might be the first time those of us who are blind may get a chance to get a good idea what the other person
"looks" like."
one would hope that someone had a better idea of their partner's appearance before engaging in sexual activity, but, that's not always the case. Ever heard of a one night stand?
Bob
believe it or not, there are blind pimps and hoes. just visit the st. louis area. lol
and candi, meow to you too.
Hey Blake, Did you ever hear of the blind whore?
You really got to hand it to her. <grin>
Bob
rofl
lmfao. good lord
So, just wondering, if you short change the blind hooker because of her disability who's going to come after you, the wheelchair bound pimp, or what?
Well i figure they would send a deaf person to guide the blind wheelchair bound pimp. rofl
lol
I was reading these post and 3015 has a good grasp on how things should be. Also the guiding issue is equal among the blind and sighted, due to how involved the people are in the activity. I personally think that blind people have the edge on sighted people, because we use touch and must touch a person fully to see them. Touch makes for great connecting and should be a part of love making, but some sighted people I've known only touch where they have to, they don't touch to enjoy their lovers.
Adding to my last post I've not read any post about the smell and taste factor of sex. I'm not talking about quick sex that happens in a rush, although it does have a scent, the scent isn't as heavy as after time has been spent. I find it erotic and I know that many sighted people have no clue about this. Now on the taste factor, blind people are always tasting things and that gives us another take. The taste opens up something in the brain and causes another sense of a thing. Taste is hard for me to describe, so I'm hoping I'm understood. Admit it, we've probably tasted everything we own at some time, so think what that does if your lover taste sweet, or you use a flavored product on them. *SMILE*
yeah, definetly. taste and smell play a big part. it really enhances the experience. Pleasuring a girl orally before intercourse makes it even better.
I forgot to say this in my last post but one great thing about doing sixty nine is that you can experience the feeling of your partner giving you oral while you're doing it to them at the same time. Sort of a best of both worlds thing. it can be really intense when both really get into it and you can achieve stronger orgasms that way as well.
As for the taste and scent factors. I would imagine that they are terribly important. For example, to me the way that food smells, the sents of a familiar or new place, or the reassuring scent of a friend or family member is very important. Holding a fresh loaf of banana bread recently out of the oven, or the scent of a freshly washed little baby, fresh cut vegetables and fruits, fresh cut grass, new books and the smell of wood smoke on a cold crisp night, are all wonderfully sensory things. I'm sure that love making is no different. When I am sure I'll post again. I don't believe on speaking with authority when none is truly present.
yes I'll agree all the way with Cam by saying that taste and touch and all the senses play a big role in intercourse. You don't need sight however to make love to your partner because sex as an act of touching and being able to communicate to your partner I have to say you won't know the feeling unless you experience it. It's amazing, and when I'm really into it , it allows me to escape into another world which is so amazing and it allows me to only be able to concentrate on the act of pleasureing that special someone.
I may not see a person's face but I pic up on the audible clues and better my techniques.
Well I have had three guys none of them could get it in so with the last guy i got on top it barely worked. but the thing i am getting at is if your with a girl who has no experience, dont worry if you hurt her she is gonna feel pain the first couple of times no matter what you do. so just go in there because by the time its over she wont notice the pain. I couldnt get one guy to even try hard to get it in bec ause he didnt want to hurt me um duh i am still a virgin in that since.
A little KY goes a ling way
what???? do explain
K Y jelly, is a lubricant. It is water soluable and very slippery. I think that a virgin would profit greatly from it's use. It would allow him to glide in you easier than if you didn't use it.
Astro Glide is superior to K Y in my opinion. It's a bit more pricey, but it smells, feels, tastes and works better. Try asking your OB-GYN for their opinion. I will say this. The taste of a man is encredible. Wonderful, musky, sensual and erotic in the extreme.
oh yes that but the way you wrote it at first was strange.
yep, KY and astroglide both work very well.
I'll agree with LaMusiqueDuSoirTristeEtBelle; as always, she seems to say what I want to say, but better than I could ever say it.:)
The other senses, I think, are much more important during sex. Touch, taste, smell, sound... After all, many sighted people don't like to have sex with the lights on anyway.:)
As I said before, I'd still like to be able to see my partner's face, but, well, that's just a general statement, not necessarily applicable only to sexual situations. But you can't always get what you want and all that.
As a previous poster said, this is all very hard to convey to someone who hasn't experienced these things yet.
it really is and kind of difficult to talk about in the first place at least for me.
Hun, you think it's hard to talk about over the net? Try talking about it in person, it's considerably harder. We should have an anonimous board where people can ask questions about sex. The sex addicts anonimous board is ok, but it's more for fantacies, flirting and not serious inquiries. You could always post anonimous questions over there Jenny, however the responses you'll get might not be of any real help.
If you can't talk about it, then you shouldn't really do it.
Well, it's understandable to be nervous, especially if you're younger. If you ever want to ask me any questions you can send me a private quick note and I will answer your questions the best I can, and I will not laugh at you or judge you. I only wish we had a better public, but anonomous forum that you could utalize.
Wow, this is an uncomfortable subject to discuss, seeing as I've never done it. I mean, you learn about it in school, but there's just so much the teachers can't and don't tell you.
Having sex is no different than if you are sighted. It
I agree what does it really matter, you still have to get it on!!!
I like what foreel said, I agree 150%... touch & taste is what its all about and of course taking your time... I could not have said it better myself
On the sex board you can post serious questions and get good feedback. there is a person or to there that gives great advice, so post there.
Hi, I think sex is a very good thing if you are with the right person. Sex for me is about smell and taste. The person has to smell great and then they should taste even better. Being blind just makes it a more time consuming because you have to feel the person, all of their body not just certain places. So, I like that. I dont find it hard to talk about sex at all. Its a discussion like anything else. If you are very young then I can see you being very nervous but with age should come more experience. I guess not in all cases. Just my thoughts. Once you try it more than likely you will enjoy it.